It's blog time!
Hey you folks! I know I've been lacking here and I sincerely apologise (not that anyone notices anyway...). Life's been a roller coaster as per usual and I am trying to keep myself conscious and grounded as I face all the ups and downs of it.
There are quite a few topics that I'd like to discuss here today. On this post I will address only one of them that for me needs excruciatingly to be addressed: body shaming. If you listen to the radio or just literally go on youtube and check what's trending, you will know what I am talking about. There's an unbelievable amount of pop music that is coming out body shaming women. At first sight they aren't. You need to look closely at what they're saying so you can understand how they are shaming certain body shapes. Women as myself (yes, I consider myself to be a woman sometimes. Now even more often) who are curvy (no, I am not going to call myself fat! I am working towards fitness and a healthy lifestyle) and just atypical in many ways have been put aside and called "un-beautiful"since the era of modelling and cover girls came along. Lately (it has been a few years already) these women who partially represent myself have stood up and told themselves and the surrounding world NO. They are beautiful and they don't care if anyone else sees it or not, because they have learned to love and accept themselves as they are. So no, I am not saying this is bad. In fact this is absolutely great. I can finally recognise myself and see myself represented. So no this is not the problem I want to address. This is a positive side of the slow evoluntion and mind revolution we are going through. The problem to address has to do with the negative side of the swtich of minds. Apparently women of all body shapes have an inhereted need of shaming other women. So, if you're slightly curvy and you happen to have a big pair of breasts (lucky you!) and a significant-sized buttocks and you have finally learned to embrace that, why do you need to shade all the women who aren't like you? I am not skinny but I come here in defence of all skinny girls who are naturally skinny and have been received the most unbelievable shade for not putting on some pounds as easily. And yes, it's not men who are judging women. It's not men who are telling women they are 'unbeautiful'. It's other women. It's other women who have own physical insecurities who are killing each other's self-esteems. We are not united as gender. We don't come and support each other's dreams and help each other face our own fears. Instead we tell each other that what you have which is natural to you is wrong and makes others feel uncomfortable.
Therefore, once again, women on this bloody Earth. You are beautiful in your own way. It's not visible to many but it will shine through to the people who believe in you and who are inspired by you. Embrace that, don't let anyone steal that from you. Also remind yourself that your happiness and confidence should NEVER and in any circumstances depend on anyone else's. Her unhappiness with her body, should not affect how you feel about your body. Your many different shapes represent your many different personalities. Support each other. Love each other. Be a woman who is independent and hard-working and sexy and be proud of it.
Love always,
Tommy´
"Façam o Favor de Ser Felizes" - Raul Solnado
