Okay, you
read the title and you are judging me already?
If we are to
have an honest conversation here you need to stop judging me…can you do that?
Okay, now
we can get on with it.
So I have
been hearing from all sources of our mother web for years about tinder. Tinder
is an app in which people upload their pictures, sometimes connect it to
facebook, and then you, based on your defined sexuality, are able to swipe
right for a person you want to chat with or swipe left for someone that does
not make your type, all of them being geographically close to you so you have
the option of ever meeting, if you want-
Now that we
established tinder, here’s my opinion. Tinder is just another dating site and
as with dating sites as many others made for hook-ups and unrealistic romantic
folks.
Tinder is
not my first experience on a dating site/app. I’ve been trying them for years
in fact. In the beginning perhaps I had the goal of finding someone different
who I wouldn’t meet necessarily within my circle of friends and acquaintances. I
have even actually met one guy from a dating app (not tinder) and we did date,
for a while.
However as
years passed by, I became understanding that the likelihood of you finding a
meaningful relationship from a dating app is near to almost impossible. The
people there most of the time are real but they are shield by the power of the
internet that enables them to say whatever you want to hear. It’s that simple…
Not to put
any blame on guys here and it is not because girls are stupid either. What
girls on tinder do (and not only) is willingly blindfold themselves so guys
have little work to do when it comes to fooling them for ulterior motives.
Here is what
us sisters and girls of this world need to understand before getting on a app
as tinder.
1st
thing: 100% of the guys who approach you want sex. Let’s make it clear here. Did
you digest that? Okay, I’ll say it again. They want to sleep with you and they saw
a change to make it happen and that is why they approached you. The sooner you
get into terms with this, the sooner we can get on with the best part of it.
2nd
thing: Not all guys are players though. Some guys though they are sexually
attracted to you and definitely want to sleep with you, they are so genuinely interested
in you. Are you surprised? It’s true. You are interesting human being with tons
to offer so trust me , for me, it’s no surprise they want to know more about
your life.
3rd thing: You will chat with more guys who solely want to get in your pants than guys who want to have a real conversation with you.
4th
thing: there is also a quarter of this population of guys which will include men
with double of your age, disgusting men who will forward a bunch of pictures of
themselves, creepy creepy guys who will get overly attached to you when you
reply to them once or twice, guys who will get verbally aggressive to you, guys
who will say the most disgusting things to you, etc. etc.
5th
thing :1% if not less of all the guys who will approach is probably boyfriend
material and even perhaps husband material. That is the good news. Have you not
ever watched a video of a couple who met on tinder or match.com? It’s real.
Many of them are still together!0
The problem
for me with that 1% is how unlikely is it to happen. It is worth it? Sure! Yet
so rare. While some people are fine to go through the trouble of meeting a
bunch of no guys to find their yes guy, I am an impatient person and hate to
feel that I missing out on life because of a virtual thing.
So the
reason I use tinder isn’t to date. In fact, At this moment I have around 30
messages over there from different people that I have never replied. Tinder as
the most recent and chaotic and known dating tool has become my new research
tool. I am using tinder as the platform to get the answers for several of my
questions of what guys will or will not put up with in a in a girl.
Check the
next chapter to figure out the top things I have learned about the opposite sex
so far.
Love always,
Tommy
"Façam o Favor de Ser Felizes" - Raul Solnado
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